There's a kind of relationship that leaves you unsettled, not because it's always bad, but because it's never steady.

One moment they're all in. The next, they're gone. You're left holding the emotional weight, wondering what changed.

I know that place well. For years, I tried making almost-relationships work. I over-explained, over-functioned, and called it connection, all while bracing for the inevitable shift: the moment things would turn quiet, distant, unclear again.

Eventually, I stopped taking their inconsistent behavior personally, whether it was obvious hot-and-cold or just subtle mixed signals—and realized it wasn't a reflection of my worth. I started trusting what I'd sensed all along: this isn't what love is supposed to feel like.

That’s why I created The North Star Love Project. I help people break free from these cycles by recognizing patterns clearly and making different choices.

We slow everything down. We figure out what's real. And we help you remember that your instincts about love are worth trusting. Your wisdom is sacred and will always guide you in the right way.

If you're tired of holding everything together, waiting for someone to finally show up fully, or making yourself smaller to keep the peace—this is where you can make that pivot and choose a better way.

It's about reconnecting with your North Star. It's the moment you stop overriding that sick feeling in your stomach. You stop explaining away the red flags. You start listening to your intuition again.

You'll get clear on whether someone is actually showing up for you, or just stringing you along.

I'm Thena. I created this experience for thoughtful people who still believe in finding their person. You don't have to keep chasing love that leaves you drained. Real love won't make you anxious or confused.

Here’s what this support looks like:

You say, "He said all the right things and now he's gone quiet again." We talk through what that actually means, and why it keeps happening.

You bring the text thread you've reread ten times. We sit with it together.

You don't get advice that makes you feel like you're the problem. You get questions that help you see what you're tolerating, what you're afraid to lose, and what you actually want instead.

There's no pressure to be over it. You don't have to pretend to be further along.

You come exactly as you are, and we work from there.

You stop second-guessing yourself. You stop calling it "chemistry" when it's actually chaos. You stop trying to hold something together that keeps falling apart.

And slowly, you start doing things differently. Because you finally feel clear enough to stop trying so hard for something that's never really felt right.

What it's like to work with me:

When we meet, you don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to show up with something real.

Maybe it's:

"I keep falling for people who pull away as soon as I start to feel close."

"I said yes to another date I didn't want, and now I'm annoyed at myself."

"Everything looks fine on paper, but I feel unsettled and I don't know why."

We'll sit with it—not to overanalyze or fix it, but to understand what's really going on beneath the surface.

We'll talk. I'll ask questions you maybe haven't been asked before. We might map something out. We might name something you've been avoiding. You'll probably say, "I've never looked at it like that."

You'll walk away seeing something you didn't see before, and that usually shifts how you respond next time.

Ready to begin?