There's a kind of relationship that leaves you unsettled, not because it's always bad, but because it's not consistent.

One moment they're all in. The next, they're gone. You're left holding the emotional weight, wondering what changed.

I know that place well. For years, I tried making almost-relationships work. I over-explained, over-functioned, and called it connection, all while bracing for the inevitable shift: the moment things would turn quiet, distant, unclear again.

Eventually, I stopped taking their inconsistent behavior personally, whether it was obvious hot-and-cold or just subtle mixed signals, and realized it wasn't a reflection of my worth. I started trusting what I'd sensed all along: this isn't what love is supposed to feel like.

That’s why I created The North Star Love Project. I help people break free from these cycles by recognizing patterns clearly and making different choices.

We slow everything down. We figure out what's real. And we help you remember that your instincts about love are worth trusting. Your wisdom is sacred and will always guide you in the right way.

If you're tired of holding everything together, waiting for someone to finally show up fully, or making yourself smaller to keep the peace—this is where you can make that pivot and choose a better way.

It's about reconnecting with your North Star. It's the moment you stop overriding that sick feeling in your stomach. You stop explaining away the red flags. You start listening to your intuition again.

You'll get clear on whether someone is actually showing up for you, or just stringing you along.

I created this experience for thoughtful people who still believe in finding their person. You don't have to keep chasing love that leaves you drained. Real love won't make you anxious or confused.

Here’s what this support looks like:

You say, "They said all the right things and now they've gone quiet again." We figure out what that actually means and why it keeps happening.

You bring the text thread you've reread ten times. We sit with it together.

You don't get advice that makes you feel like you're the problem. You get questions that help you see what you're tolerating and what you actually want instead.

You don't need to pretend to be over it or further along than you are. You stop second-guessing yourself. You stop calling it "chemistry" when it's actually chaos. You stop trying to hold something together that keeps falling apart.

And slowly, you start doing things differently. Because you finally feel clear enough to stop trying so hard for something that never felt right.

You don't need to have it all figured out. Just bring what's real.

Maybe it's:
→ "I keep falling for people who pull away when things get close."
→ "I said yes to something I didn't really want, and now I feel off."
→ "We've been together for years, but I still feel alone."
→ "I thought I was past it, but still overthink about it.”

We'll look at what's actually happening—not to overanalyze or fix it, but to understand what's really going on.

I'll ask questions you maybe haven't been asked before. Something usually clicks that wasn't clear before.

You’ll finally understand the patterns behind hot-and-cold relationships, why they pulled you in, why they were hard to let go of, and why you don’t need to keep repeating it.

Ready to begin?