There's a kind of relationship that leaves you unsettled—not because it's always bad, but because it's never steady.

One moment they're all in. The next, they're gone. You're left holding the emotional weight, wondering what changed.

I know that place intimately. For years, I tried making almost-relationships work. I over-explained, over-functioned, and called it connection. All while bracing for the inevitable shift—the moment things would turn quiet, distant, unclear again.

Eventually, I stopped trying to fix what wasn't mine to carry. I started trusting what I'd sensed all along: This isn't what love is supposed to feel like.

That's why I created The North Star Love Project. Through 1:1 coaching and workshops, I help people break free from these cycles by recognizing patterns clearly and making different choices.

We slow everything down. We name what's real. And we rebuild trust in the one relationship that changes everything—the one with yourself.

Even if you've never experienced love that feels steady and mutual, you can learn to recognize it—and more importantly, you can learn to stop accepting anything less.

If you're tired of holding everything together, waiting for someone to finally show up fully, or making yourself smaller to keep the peace—this is where everything shifts.

This is about reconnecting with your North Star—it’s when you finally stop overriding that sick feeling in your stomach. You stop explaining away the red flags. You start listening to intuition again. You’ve had the answer for a while. You just didn’t have the space—or support—to say it out loud. This is about getting clear on whether this is someone who’s actually showing up for you—or just stringing you along.

I'm Thena. I created this experience for thoughtful people who still believe in finding their person. You don’t have to keep chasing love that leaves you drained. Real love won’t make you anxious, confused.

Why high level support matters

This is about looking clearly at what’s actually happening in your love life—without downplaying it or bending yourself to make it feel okay.

Here’s what this support looks like:

• You say, “He said all the right things and now he’s gone quiet again.” We talk through what that actually means—and why it keeps happening.

• You bring the text thread you’ve reread ten times. We sit with it together.

• You don’t get advice that makes you feel like you’re the problem. You get questions that help you see what you're tolerating, what you're afraid to lose, and what you actually want instead.

There’s no pressure to be over it. You don’t have to pretend to be further along.
You show up exactly as you are, and we work from there.

This isn’t about strategies or big breakthroughs. It’s quieter than that.
You stop second-guessing yourself.
You stop calling it “chemistry” when it’s actually chaos.
You stop trying to hold something together that keeps falling apart.

And slowly, you start doing things differently.
Not because you’ve transformed overnight—
but because you finally feel clear enough to stop trying so hard for something that’s never really felt right.

What It’s Like to Work With Me

When we meet, you don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to show up with something real.

Maybe it’s:
“I keep falling for people who pull away as soon as I start to feel close.”
Or:
“I said yes to another date I didn’t want, and now I’m annoyed at myself.”
Or:
“Everything looks fine on paper, but I feel unsettled and I don’t know why.”

We’ll sit with it—not to overanalyze or fix it—but to understand what was really going on beneath the surface.

We’ll talk. I’ll ask questions you maybe haven’t been asked before. We might map something out. We might name something you’ve been avoiding. You’ll probably say, “I’ve never looked at it like that.”

You’ll walk away seeing something you didn’t see before—and that usually changes how you show up next time.

This work meets you where you actually are—not where you’re pretending to be, or where you think you should be already.

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